Category: Child safety

  • The math: Pope Francis’ meeting with survivors

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    Since yesterday’s announcement, I have been hearing a lot of this:

    But Pope Francis met with survivors. He’s promised to hold bishops accountable. That’s good, right?

    Um … not really. But first, let’s boil down the figures concerning the actual meeting.

    Here is some math on Pope Francis’ meeting yesterday with abuse survivors.

    The meeting was 30 minutes long, total.

    There were five survivors present. Some were victims of predators employed, harbored, and protected by the Vatican. The others were not, and had very different histories to talk share with the Pope.

    Each survivor brought a loved one

    Francis talked for a few minutes at the beginning.

    He prayed with each one at the end.

    Some Catholic news outlets report that “The pope listened to each survivors’ story.”

    At most, simple division tells us that each survivor had about four minutes (or less) to share his or her experience of abuse and betrayal with Francis. For those not abused in the church, they may have not even been able to get to the meat of their stories.

    So my question is:

    Does anyone really think that a 78-year-old never-married man who has been a priest for six decades really learned anything from this event?

    And don’t forget: Francis refused to meet with survivors while bishop, archbishop, and cardinal in Argentina.

    My conclusion:

    Meetings and prayers may have been very healing for these survivors, but do absolutely nothing to keep kids safe now. Plus, the meeting was terribly hurtful for the thousands of survivors who have written the Vatican asking for help and received NOTHING. Or those who had to resort to the civil courts for justice, and watched as bishops paid millions of dollars to lawyers to keep criminal secrets hidden (that’s a math class for another day).

    This meeting was nothing but PR.

    But Francis can prove that he means action.

    Pope Francis’s easy, free, and no-brainer first step would be to publicly admonish and strip all titles, honors, and wealth from disgraced Los Angeles Cardinal Roger Mahony, equally disgraced Archbishop of St. Paul/Minneapolis John Nienstedt and convicted Kansas City-St. Joseph Bishop Robert Finn.

    Making these three men live lives of prayer and penance would do a lot … and wouldn’t cost a thing.

    And then, for #2 (the not-so-free-and-easy step): he must make public the sex abuse files in the Vatican and every diocese HQ worldwide. When that happens, there will be a lot more bishops who will need public admonishing. And a lot of child predators will go to jail.

    Maybe then, we can hope that children are safer in the church.

  • The Well-Armored Child featured in the Orange County Register

    Photo by MICHAEL GOULDING, ORANGE COUNTY REGISTER
    Photo by MICHAEL GOULDING, ORANGE COUNTY REGISTER

     

    I’m especially proud of this article because the reporter talked to my dad, who has a very important voice.

    You can read Theresa Walker’s great article here.

  • Joelle Casteix at TEDx: The Power of Responsibility

    We must embrace responsibility. Once we do, every one of us has limitless possibility and potential.

     

  • The wait is over!

    The Well-Armored Child is here and available for purchase!

     

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    It’s been a long wait, but the day has come. Click here to purchase what reviewers are calling “smart and well-written” and “the most important parenting book you will ever own.”

    The Well-Armored Child gives parents the tools and strategies to understand how predators “groom” children, why many of our trusted institutions cover up abuse, the importance of statutes of limitations and reporting, and how to empower children without shame, fear, or inappropriate discussions of sex.

    More advance praise:

    In these pages you will the wisdom, intelligence, and perspective you need to both understand the challenge of making the world safer and the tools to do the job.   

    – Michael D’Antonio, Pulitzer Prize winner and author of Never Enough: Donald Trump and the Pursuit of Success, Hershey, Mortal Sins, and The State Boys Rebellion

    An essential manual for any parent, grandparent, aunt or uncle, “The Well-Armored Child” teaches adults how to keep their kiddies away from sexual abuse in a manner both informative, down-to-earth, serious yet humorous.

    – Gustavo Arellano, editor of OC Weekly and author of ¡Ask a Mexican! and Taco USA

    With frank language and compassion. Joelle Casteix demystifies sexual abuse.  She offers tools and strategies that every parent can be comfortable using to help keep their child safe. resilient, and loved.  

    – Jeff Dion, National Center for Victims of Crime

    It’s amazing to think about how many children’s lives will be changed (or better yet, will remain innocent) because of The Well Armored Child. Parents can better protect and empower their kids, especially in this digital age, by reading this smart and well-written book.

    – William Lobdell, author of Losing My Religion: How I Lost My Faith Reporting on Religion in America and Found Unexpected Peace