Author: Joelle Casteix

  • Boy Scouts and Abuse: Why come forward?

    Boy Scouts and Abuse: Why come forward?

    Being an honorable Boy Scout is not about forcing yourself to carry secrets of hurt and shame.

    Honoring the Boy Scouts is not about protecting the public from the truth about your experience in Scouting.

    So what do you do if you are a Scout who was sexually abused? What do you do if you ALSO loved Scouting? Maybe your own son is a Scout. Maybe you are an Eagle Scout. Maybe you even helped your son earn that honor because you loved the Boy Scouts that much.

    Maybe Scouting helped you through the hardest time of your life … even though that hardship was caused by a child predator inside of the Boy Scouts.

    As a survivor of child sexual abuse in the Catholic Church—and in a school with a “cult like” following—I understand those torn loyalties: Some of my best memories are from high school. Some of my worst nightmares came from the same place. The choir (facilitated the choir director) was the place where I found my home. And it was the place where my life was destroyed … by the choir director.

    How does an abuse survivor reconcile that? I learned that for me, I needed to reconcile the conflict with honor and with truth. I need to honor myself. I could not honor myself if I remained quiet.

    I needed to make sure that what happened to me did not happen to another girl. It didn’t mean that I was on a mission to destroy the school (which I still *want* to do a lot of the time, but I am working on that), and it doesn’t mean that I am on a mission to tear apart the Catholic Church. It means that I want to rid both institutions of the people who hurt kids.

    It means that it’s time for openness, truth, and accountability. It means that our communities require responsibility. It means that it is safe RIGHT NOW for any survivor who is ready to come forward. It means that we are working towards a day where every survivor feels safe to come forward.

    So back to the Boy Scouts.

    My biggest, most important job is that of mom. My son is entering the eighth grade in a couple of weeks. There is a Boy Scout troop at his school and there was some pretty serious pressure in the early years to get my son to join the Cub Scout troop. My answer was a hard no.

    I was truthful about my reasons, and this was before the scandal was well known. I was nice and super diplomatic, but I was honest.

    Moms did not meet me with enthusiasm.

    The reactions of seemingly sane mothers always surprise me: “Joelle, that was a long time ago.” “Joelle, that would never happen in our troop.” “Joelle, why would you hurt the Boy Scouts like that?”

    Here is what I have to say:

    Without brave survivors coming forward in the civil courts, we wouldn’t know any of this. The perversion files would still be secret. Victims would still be living in silence and shame. It would still be business as usual.

    Coming forward is one of the bravest things that a Boy Scout can do. There is no greater duty to yourself, Scouting, and every boy who strives for the honor of Eagle Scout.

    Coming forward is true leadership in the face of adversity. It is telling the truth and keeping your promises.

    There is no conflict.

    I believe you and I believe in you.

    If you want more information on next steps, you can contact me, download my resource guide here, or go to the National Crime Victims Bar Association on how to find an attorney and learn the rights in the state where you were sexually abused.

     

     

    The Boy Scout Law

    A Scout is:

    TRUSTWORTHY. Tell the truth and keep promises. People can depend on you.

    LOYAL. Show that you care about your family, friends, Scout leaders, school, and country.

    HELPFUL. Volunteer to help others without expecting a reward.

    FRIENDLY. Be a friend to everyone, even people who are very different from you.

    COURTEOUS. Be polite to everyone and always use good manners.

    KIND. Treat others as you want to be treated . Never harm or kill any living thing without good reason.

    OBEDIENT. Follow the rules of your family, school, and pack. Obey the laws of your community and country.

    CHEERFUL. Look for the bright side of life. Cheerfully do tasks that come your way. Try to help others be happy.

    THRIFTY. Work to pay your own way. Try not to be wasteful. Use time, food, supplies, and natural resources wisely.

    BRAVE. Face difficult situations even when you feel afraid. Do what you think is right despite what others might be doing or saying.

    CLEAN. Keep your body and mind fit . Help keep your home and community clean.

    REVERENT. Be reverent toward God. Be faithful in your religious duties. Respect the beliefs of others.

     

  • Independent compensation programs hit California

    Independent compensation programs hit California

    Yesterday, six of California’s Catholic bishops announced an independent compensation program for survivors of clergy sexual abuse.

    I wrote an extensive series on these programs a while back. While the some of the details are different, the facts about these programs remain the same:

    This plan is not about helping survivors. This is about the church writing checks to keep its secrets.

    The flow of information goes one way in the plan: in. Survivors give the plan administrators valuable data, including predator names, dates of crimes, evidence, photos, witnesses, names of other victims, locations, letters, etc. The plan administrators share that with the church.

    The church shares nothing, except a check. They won’t say what they know about a cover-up. They won’t tell us who knew what and when. They won’t tell us what is in the secret personnel files. They won’t tell us how high the cover-up goes. They won’t tell us if anyone will be punished. They won’t verify if other victims have been contacted and helped (or silenced). In some cases, they won’t disclose if the accused is still in a parish. They won’t disclose documents to the survivor or the public. They won’t tell us if there are still crimes within the criminal statute of limitations.

    Is this about protecting children or protecting themselves?

    In other words, it’s business as usual.

    The bishops have put this plan together to stop legislative reform

    There is only one reason that these plans have been introduced (starting in New York and spreading to other states): to stop statute of limitation reform that would allow victims of child sexual abuse to use the civil justice system to expose their predator and the institution that covered up that abuse.

    SOL reform has been rumbling around the halls of Sacramento for a while. California’s bishops think that they can 1) persuade legislators that reform isn’t necessary and 2) silence a large number of the victims in the more embarrassing cases.

    Not all survivors are included

    If the Catholic Bishops want to persuade legislators that they are doing the right thing, the first thing they should do is construct a plan that would include ALL of the victims in their dioceses.

    But they don’t. Survivors who were abused by lay teachers (like me), volunteers, or religious order priests are not included.

    Why have some bishops signed on and others have not?

    I can understand why Stockton (the diocese that sought bankruptcy reorganization a few years ago) would exclude themselves. But where is San Francisco? Why are they standing aside in this process? San Francisco has also never released a list of credibly accused clerics.

    How many secrets will be kept in this process?

    No one will ever know.

    What should you do if you were abused in one of these dioceses?

    My knee-jerk reaction is always: RUN AWAY! My second, third, and fourth reaction are also: RUN AWAY. Huge strides have been made in SOL reform in the past few years, and now that Jerry Brown is out of office, I expect great changes in California, and soon.

    BUT: I am not in every survivor’s shoes. I don’t know if a survivor is dying of cancer, has a tremendous financial need, or is too incapacitated for the legal process. There are a few survivors who may need to take advantage of this plan.

    Always talk to a lawyer. You can get a referral from the National Crime Victims Bar Association here. The bishops say you don’t need one. That’s because they have an army of attorneys. They will also assign you one of their attorneys at the end of the process to help you sign away your civil rights.

    Don’t you want to go into the process on equal footing? The church has not cared about survivors once in the past 60 years. Why would they suddenly become self-sacrificing now? Get a lawyer.

    The entity who benefits most from these plans is the church. Paying a victim is far cheaper than paying a lawyer to defend the victim’s civil case.

    Remember: no child is kept safer with an independent compensation plan.

     

  • The New York Child Victims Act: How will you change the world today?

    The New York Child Victims Act: How will you change the world today?

    It’s been a crazy couple of weeks in the child sex abuse survivors’ movement. It’s easy to get overwhelmed with the news and the emotions involved (Heck, even I’m overwhelmed).

    After years of little action, it seems as if survivors and advocates have been thrown into a hurricane of news, reaction and emotion—lots and lots of emotion.

    First: Take a breath. You are going to be okay. Don’t panic or feel like you have to jump on the bandwagon. This is your decision and your journey.

    Hopefully, this post and the posts that follow can be of some help. During the next few days, I plan on addressing some of the big issues here.

    In future posts, I will talk about the recent Papal conference on child sexual abuse, the powerful roles survivors and advocates played in Rome, future SOL reform actions, and the recent “outbreak” of dioceses’ lists of accused priests (and why you may not see so many of them anymore).

    So let’s dive in and talk about about the NY Child Victims’ Act.

    The NY CVA

    After more than a decade of battles and brave advocacy by generations of survivors, NY Governor Andrew Cuomo signed the NY Child Victims’ Act into law on Valentine’s Day.

    The law does a variety of things, but for the purposes of this blog, we are going to talk about the retroactive window, which allows victims of child sexual abuse to use the civil courts to expose their abuser and the institution that protected the abuser and facilitated the sexual assault.

    When is the New York window in effect?

    The window opens on August 14, 2019, and closes on August 14, 2020. Attorneys have until August 14, 2020 to file cases. My suggestion is that survivors interested in taking advantage of the law should make a decision by May 2020. No one wants to or should be rushed.

    Do people have to know that I am filing a lawsuit?

    No. Because you are the alleged victim of a crime, you can file the lawsuit as a John or Jane Doe. No one needs to know your identity or know that you are filing the suit. The only people who will know are you, your attorney, and the entity/ies you are suing. They cannot make your name public.

    I’ve never had an attorney before. How do I find one I can trust?

    Do your research. It’s not very difficult. Here are some easy steps:

    1. Talk to someone you trust and/or who has been through the process before.
    2. Look up the person who sexually abused you. Has he/she been exposed before? Has an attorney already done work for other victims of this perpetrator or researched this person? That is valuable knowledge.
    3. Do an internet search on the institution that covered up your abuse, if applicable. Are there attorneys who have deep knowledge of this institution?
    4. Do an internet search for attorneys who have already filed lawsuits or already done work for victims in New York. If your prospective attorney has never filed a sex abuse lawsuit (especially a clergy sex abuse lawsuit) or has never done any work in New York, you may want to interview other attorneys. It’s easy to do work in New York now that the law is open. But who did work for victims when it was hard? You want an attorney who will work for you when times are hard. There are a number of those out there.

    Other advice:

    1. Talk to more than one attorney. Finding an attorney is like dating. Just because your friend thinks that her attorney is wonderful doesn’t mean that you and the attorney will have the same chemistry. That’s okay. The best attorney for your friend may not be the best attorney for you.
    2. You may be pressured by your friends to sign with their attorneys. Don’t be. This is not junior high. It’s okay to swim in your own lane.
    3. Be careful of social media. Just because someone has a lot of followers doesn’t mean that their attorney is the best attorney for you.
    4. Do not sign up via a website. Make sure you talk to someone over the phone or in person first. Phone interviews are perfectly acceptable.
    5. An ethical attorney will never charge you money up front.
    6. You are the customer. While you were a victim of child sexual abuse, you need not be a victim of the system or of unscrupulous attorneys.
    7. Beware of high pressure. No ethical attorney will give you an artificial time limit to sign (except in the case of the VERY REAL deadline of the window).
    8. Beware of class action lawsuits.

    Is there a referral list?

    The National Crime Victims Bar Association can help you find a New York attorney who is very qualified to handle child sex abuse cases. They collect no fee for this service.

    What if I was a part of the IRCP?

    You should still talk to an attorney. You may have rights. You can also act as a witness for other survivors. You provided a great deal of information to the church. Now you have the opportunity to help others and yourself with that same information.

    Do ethical attorneys advertise?

    You bet they do. But always do your due diligence and research.

    How long will this process take?

    No one knows for sure. The window for victims will close on August 14, 2020, but that is only the beginning of the journey. After that, the legal process could take months to years. Fortunately, the process, while tedious, is where we can learn about a great deal of institutional cover-up.

    Should I be seeing a therapist?

    Yes. Even if you are far along in your healing, the legal process may take you places you have not been in years. I saw a therapist through my litigation. Fighting the status quo is hard. You need a support system.

    The journey will be rough, but it’s an amazing healing journey that will save children’s lives. Many of the best and most experienced attorneys will not take a case unless the survivor agrees to go through rehab or engage in therapy. This is for your benefit and healing. If you can’t afford it, your attorney will help you figure out how to get the help you need without incurring debt or costs.

    The most important question:

    The NY Child Victims’ Act is an amazing opportunity for survivors in New York. So as you embark on this journey, think about this question:

    How will you change the world today?

  • Class Action Sex Abuse Lawsuits Part 4: Class Actions vs. IRCPs

    Class Action Sex Abuse Lawsuits Part 4: Class Actions vs. IRCPs

    Part Four in a multi-part series ~ Previous post

    The enemy of sex abuse and cover-up is the light of truth: Statute of Limitation Reform.

    Why? Because civil justice—properly executed—demands that such behavior be uncovered and made public. Predators AND the institutional cover-up that enables predators to flourish are EXPOSED. Law enforcement can put bad guys behind bars.

    If we only expose the predators, but don’t expose the institutional cover-up that enables such predators in institutions such as the Catholic Church—the predatory system continues to flourish. The Catholic Church/Boy Scouts/Michigan State, etc., continue unabated.

    New predators will “fill the gap” left by predators put in jail or exposed individually if systems of cover-up are allowed to remain in place. (Just ‘plug in the new guy’ and it’s business as usual)

    The enemies of Statute of Limitation Reform are Class Action Lawsuits and IRCPs. These are what I call “One-way information superhighways.”

    Why? Because victims of child sexual abuse have to turn over all of their information. Wrongdoers turn over little to nothing in return.

    IRCPs are Independent Reconciliation and Compensation Programs. The Catholic Church has peddled these in New York and now in Pennsylvania. While they are the only option for many survivors (and we support any survivor who decides to use these programs), we have seen how the church is using them to collect tons of information and surrender very little.

    I go into more detail here about the IRCPs.

    IRCPs and Names

    The IRCPs are full of hurdles. Every diocese is different. They change the rules as they go. Some allow victims of deacons to apply. Some don’t. None allow victims of religious order priests to apply … for the time being. The majority of survivors go it alone, but the survivors who hire an attorney have a higher acceptance rate.

    No documents are released as a part of the program.

    There is, however, a silver lining: In the IRCPs, if a survivor’s case is deemed credible, the survivor has the option of going public with the name of the predator.

    Unrepresented survivors, on a whole, aren’t likely to stand on a street corner and have a press conference. But for those who hire an attorney and expose a priest who had never been “outed‘ before, this is big news.

    When names are released, more survivors are empowered to come forward. Witnesses start talking.

    At least it’s something. It’s not ideal. But it’s something.

    Class Actions and Predator Names: The Big Unknown

    In a class action, when a law firm is a “one-stop clearinghouse” for clergy sex abuse cases, how will there ever be due diligence to make sure that every case get the attention it deserves? Will there be enough time and manpower to get the documents on every case to expose every predator and every cover-up?

    Oh wait. That’s not the point of the class action.

    Remember what the Pennsylvania Grand Jury said: It happens EVERYWHERE. No class action is going to tell us what the PA grand jury did. Or what we learned in Minnesota, Los Angeles, Orange County, Hawaii, or Delaware. Only Statute of Limitation Reform will do that.

    Wait! Weren’t the Big Tobacco Lawsuits Class Actions?

    No. That was a mass tort settlement between the attorneys general of 46 states and the four major tobacco companies. Before then, there were individual cases where smokers had sued, but they were not successful. It’s a fascinating legal story, if you want a long read.

    Who are the attorneys representing the Class Action?

    I don’t know them personally or professionally. But I know this: their firms have not litigated a single sex abuse case against the Catholic Church. Why? It would have been business suicide. The partners and their clients would have revolted.

    After the Pennsylvania Grand Jury Report, it was finally “cool” to go against the Catholic Church. Class Action was the easiest way to “scoop up” as many victims as possible for the biggest payout.

    What should survivors do to learn more?

    Talk to an attorney who has experience handling child sex abuse and institutional sexual abuse and cover-up cases. 

    Where should you look? The National Crime Victims Bar Association has a referral service, where they will help survivors find a selection of attorneys with experience helping survivors of child sexual abuse and cover-up. Good attorneys will never charge you to talk, ask questions, and find the best options for you.

    Ask them to look at the contract. Will you be surrendering your rights to use the civil courts if you sign up for the class action? Are you required legally to use these attorneys for any civil action? What are the chances of Statute of Limitation Reform in your state? (Don’t discount it – there have been big changes in California and NY).

    If at the end of the class action, four bishops are slapped with fines and 300 child sex predators and those who covered up for them remain AT LARGE because their victims intentionally or unintentionally signed away their rights, was it worth it?

    I don’t believe so.

     

  • Class Action Sex Abuse Lawsuits Part 3: The Evil Opt-Out

    Class Action Sex Abuse Lawsuits Part 3: The Evil Opt-Out

    ~Part three in a multi-part series~previous post

    Settlement Class Actions Lawsuits are BAD for victims, BAD for justice, and a PUBLIC SAFETY HAZARD.

    And the opt-out? It’s every bishop’s dream.

    I talked about the opt-out a little in my last post. But in this post, I will talk about why settlement class action lawsuits in sex abuse cases are the enemy of SOL reform. The main reason (among many)? The evil opt-out.

    What is the opt-out? It is an artificial deadline more pernicious than old statutes of limitations. When a class action is certified (that is, a judge says it’s cool to move forward), s/he will set an opt-out date. Usually six months after the certification (to allow for advertising), the opt-out date is the LAST day that a survivor can say in writing that they DO NOT want to be a part of the class.

    Don’t know about the class? Don’t follow the news? Lose the postcard? Notices are sent to the wrong address? You were on vacation? Congratulations! You lose. You’re a member.

    So now you’re stuck. What does this mean in a sex abuse case? Remember, this isn’t about gym memberships. This is about RAPE.

    A story of an opt-out

    Let’s get hypothetical.

    Victim A was abused in the Diocese of Altoona-Johnstown. He a voluntary member of the class.

    The class action lawsuit is certified by the court. The deadline to opt-out comes and goes.

    Victim B was also abused in the Diocese of Altoona-Johnstown. She is 45. She recently disclosed to her husband. She lives in Oregon and has not been following the news. She has just started therapy and her therapist has reported her rapes to law enforcement in Pennsylvania (since she is a mandatory reporter). The therapist has also suggested Victim B talk to a lawyer, since the priest who raped her is still in ministry. The police say there is nothing they can do to pursue a criminal investigation.

    Then, the state legislature in Pennsylvania finally passes SOL reform, including a civil window for victims. Victim B, who is now following what is happening in her home state, is disgusted to learn that the man who raped her is still working with children. She calls and reports him to the reporting line at the diocese, but feels that her case isn’t taken seriously. She also calls the attorney general’s office.

    Finally, out of options, she calls a lawyer. “I don’t care about money. I have to get that man out of his job and away from kids,” she tells the attorney. “I don’t want what happened to me to happen to other girls.”

    Victim B is one of the first cases filed under the new civil window, which allows victims to come forward and expose predators, no matter when the abuse occurred.

    At the first hearing for her case, which is coordinated with other cases, the Catholic Church’s lawyers offer the judge a compromise.

    “Why should we clog up two court systems?” the church lawyer tells the judge. “We already have a case in the federal court system which, even plaintiff’s counsel has said, is a ‘one stop national clearing house to resolve all cases of abuse?’ Why are we wasting this court’s time?”

    “Are these plaintiffs members of that class?” the judge asks.

    “Well, I do not see Victim B’s name on the opt-out list. So yes, she is,” he says.

    “Fine,” the judge says. “Victim B and others who did not opt out are moved to the federal court.”

    Victim B? Well, you tell me? Will she get her day in court? No. No documents. Most likely no ability to stand up and say, in a court, that Fr. X abused her. Instead, she is given a number and sent to the clearinghouse.

    And Fr. X remains in ministry.

    What about the people who covered up for Fr. X? You know, the folks who knew he abused kids, sent him to treatment, lied to parents, etc? They are off the hook, too.

    Will this definitely happen? I don’t know. Do we know that this is going to be the big argument to kill SOL reform in NY, PA, and every other state working expose sex predators? YES.

    And if SOL reform passes, we know that anyone stuck in the class runs a huge risk of losing their day in court.

    What about the Corporation Sole?

    The class action lawsuit names the US Conference of Catholic Bishops, whose members include current and former bishops.

    Let’s say the class is certified and you are Joelle Casteix and want to use the civil courts to expose your predator, a lay choir teacher, whom you know molested you and other girls. You have met the burden of proof to go to civil court, but you don’t have the “smoking gun” evidence. That “smoking gun” evidence includes the predator’s signed confession, the cover-up documents from the school and the diocese, and proof that he molested other girls.

    Those documents can ONLY be obtained in the process of a civil lawsuit.

    When you go court, lawyers for the Diocese of Orange say, “Well, Ms. Casteix is actually suing the bishop, since the legal name of the diocese is ‘The Roman Catholic Bishop of Orange, A Corporation Sole.’ We believe this case should be moved to the federal class action since it’s against the bishops and it’s the ‘clearinghouse’ for such cases.”

    The judge says yes (it’s California, the courthouses are jammed, and the judge is Catholic). Joelle gets in the back of the line of the class and never gets access to her documents.

    Would this also apply to “The Roman Catholic Bishop of Reno and his Successors, a Corporation Sole?” Or the Dioceses of Fresno, Chicago, Helena, Portland (ME), Oakland, Spokane, Sacramento, or Santa Rosa, who also are incorporated as “The Roman Catholic Bishop of X, a Corporation Sole?”

    What bishop wouldn’t love a class action?

    It makes you wonder … are they part of this deal?

    Coming up in the next post: IRCPs vs Settlement Class Action Lawsuits