For years, I believed my teenage abuse “didn’t count.” As I rebuilt the NCSESAME website and read other survivor stories, I finally saw the truth I had minimized for decades — and the silence that shaped my life began to crack.
It’s time to stop doubling down on asbestos and abusers.
9/16/25 Editors Note: The civil case against Timothy Ramaekers has been dismissed. Original post: I admit it: I’m one of those true crime dorks. I can’t get enough. But I’m picky—there have to be clear stakes. The good guys win. The bad guys get caught. Survivors get some form of justice and closure. Still, in…Continue reading It’s time to stop doubling down on asbestos and abusers.
The Difference Between a Survivor and a Problem
For too many institutions, survivors aren’t seen as people. They’re seen as problems. Not because they lied. Not because they exaggerated. But because they spoke up. Because they had the nerve to interrupt the status quo. Because they refused to stay silent about the harm that was done to them—and often, the harm still being…Continue reading The Difference Between a Survivor and a Problem
They Knew. They Covered It Up. We’re Telling the Truth Anyway.
If you’ve been wondering what I’ve been up to lately (besides criss-crossing the country talking about prevention and eating too much junk food), I’ve been helping build something that feels big—and personal. I’m working with SESAME—soon to be rebranded as the National Center to Stop Educator Sexual Abuse, Misconduct, and Exploitation—on their new website and…Continue reading They Knew. They Covered It Up. We’re Telling the Truth Anyway.
News and Updates
Yes, yes. It’s been a minute. Life got loud. But I’m back, and there’s a lot going on—some of it even includes plane food. In April, I had the honor of being a featured speaker at the Hawaii State Department of Education’s SAFE AND SUPPORTIVE SCHOOLS: Child Safety Conference 2025. What’s better than a room…Continue reading News and Updates