Author: Joelle Casteix

  • “It saves them a fortune”

    Bankruptcy, that is.

    Diocesan bankruptcy is back in the news—this time, it’s the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis.

    According to victims’ attorneys, yesterday’s four-hour deposition of St. Paul Archbishop John Nienstedt ended “abruptly and heatedly,” and Nienstedt refused to turn over some court-ordered documents and answer many questions about the cover-up of sex abuse in the Archdiocese.

    Outta Here: Archbishop John Nienstedt skedaddles from his deposition.
    Outta Here: Archbishop John Nienstedt skedaddles from his deposition.

    Now, it looks like the Archdiocese is going to use bankruptcy to stop the whole process.

    It’s the same in Stockton, Helena, Milwaukee, and Gallup, NM. Bankruptcy puts the breaks on truth. Depositions stop and haggling begins.

    Why be deposed about covering up sex abuse when you can cry poor and claim those “greedy victims” are grabbing soup bowls out of the hands of poor starving children?  Why sit and be exposed in a civil trial when you can keep quiet and hoard your cash (and the truth)?

    Don’t believe me? Here’s the money quote from Twin Cities bankruptcy attorney Barbara May (to KARE-TV):

    “Every time they file for bankruptcy they save a fortune,” she said of dioceses. “It’s good business for them.”

    Good business in the game of moral bankruptcy.

     

     

  • Where would Jesus live?

    Relax, Archbishop Gregory.

    Wilton Gregory
    Atlanta Archbishop Wilton Gregory: Oops! I didn’t mean to buy that house!

    You need to stop apologizing for that cherry $2.2 million house you just built in Atlanta. Sure, Georgia’s Catholics are rightfully angry. Of course it’s an ostentatious show of wealth that goes against the spirit and the words of the New Testament and the teachings of Jesus Christ.

    We understand: You had to show up Newark Archbishop Myers, who just put $500,000 of what critics are calling “vulgar” additions on his house. Right?

    So stop apologizing. OC Bishop Kevin Vann has got your back!

    A $2.2 million mansion? That’s chump change for Vann.

    OC Bishop Kevin Vann. He lives a lot better than you do.
    OC Bishop Kevin Vann. He lives a lot better than you do.

    Almost ten years ago, the OC Weekly ran the blockbuster piece Lifestyles of the Rich and Pious, where Gustavo Arellano listed the property values for some of the most expensive homes owned by the Diocese of Orange. Since the story ran, little has changed, except property values.

    Wilton Gregory paid $2.2 million for a mansion—how about a beach cottage now valued at more than $2.5 million?

    When the OC diocese bought this Newport Beach property in 2000 for $1.15 million, they handed the keys over to Msgr Lawrence Baird, who was its sole resident in 2004, when Gustavo’s story ran. Now, similar properties (according to Redfin) are going for anywhere between $2.5 and $3 million.

    Since Baird is still in charge of the St. John Vianney Chapel on Balboa Island (where the cottage is located), we can assume he is still the occupant of the cottage. And since the cottage is only 918 square feet, chances of a roommate are slim.

    “But where should poor Msgr. Baird live?” you ask. Here. He can commute to work like the rest of us.

    Then there is the house that Bishop Tod Brown bought in 2004 for (at least) $1.1 million. Because of its location in Santa Ana, property values dropped during the recession and are just now coming back. Houses in the development are back in the low millions. As of December of last year, Bishop Kevin Vann was living in the house. Alone. His meals there are prepared by a cook.

    Archbishop Gregory: Do you have a $2.5 million beach cottage and a private chef? How about millions of dollars in other properties across the county? Nope.

    See? You’re fine.

    Well, maybe you’re not.

     

  • RetroReport: The Shame of the Church

    A RetroReport/NYT short historical documentary on SNAP and the US victims’ rights movement. Even I got a lot of perspective:

     

  • Star Advertiser: Toughen laws against child-sex predators

    From the editorial in today’s Honolulu Star-Advertiser:

    Children who are raped, sodomized and otherwise sexually abused must cope with the emotional and physical pain of these heinous acts for the rest of their lives. Just as there is no statute of limitations on the trauma they suffer, there should be no statute of limitations on bringing to justice the criminals who inflict this terror on Hawaii’s most vulnerable victims.

    So we applaud the Hawaii Legislative Women’s Caucus’ continuing efforts to make it more difficult for pedophilic predators to get away with sex crimes against minors, and to hold accountable private employers and institutions that are proven culpable in the abuse. However, extending the window to file civil lawsuits in limited instances of past abuse, as bills pending in the Legislature seek to do, strikes us as a relatively minor response.

    This important issue deserves a broader approach, especially in the Internet age, when the money to be made producing online child pornography for a sick global market heightens an insidious profit motive for criminals already inclined to exploit minors in this way.

    It’s fair to say that American society has had its consciousness raised about childhood sexual abuse over the past several decades, as an abuse scandal engulfed the Roman Catholic Church. Other religious, educational and recreational organizations entrusted with children’s welfare also were found to have harbored predators in their ranks. Unthinkable crimes were uncovered and victims were finally heard, many after decades of silence. Yet, quite often, perpetrators escaped punishment, because the statute of limitations on the crimes had expired.

    One legitimate response, including in Hawaii, has been to temporarily lift that time limit, although here that provision is limited to the filing of civil lawsuits, and only against the individuals directly involved and associated private entities proven negligent and therefore partly responsible. The state and its agencies are exempt, a glaring hypocrisy given that compulsory public schools, for just one example, also risk employing sexual predators.

    About two dozen lawsuits were filed during the two-year window provided in Hawaii, which is set to expire on April 24. Now bills that would delay that expiration are generating intense debate at the Legislature. Familiar phrases are repeated in testimony from opponents of the proposed extension, notably that proving a long ago civil claim is difficult because with the passage of time, memories fade, witnesses die and evidence is lost or destroyed. That’s all true, but those obstacles are far more likely to impede the accuser than the accused. Remember, extending the time allowed to file a case does not lessen the burden of proof one iota — it simply gives victims time to come forward.

    At any rate, focusing on civil claims, limited to individuals and private entities to boot, skirts on the margins of true justice.

    What lawmakers should do is lift the statute of limitations on criminal charges against adults who commit sex crimes against children. This class of criminal runs a depressing gamut, from parents who sell their offspring into the sex trade, to adults in positions of authority — teachers, coaches, and yes, priests — who violate the trust of young people in their care.

    Currently under Hawaii law, only first- and second-degree murder carry no statute of limitations. All other crimes have a shelf life.

    The survivors of childhood sexual abuse live with this fundamental injustice every day. That most of them grow up and manage to cope, diminished but not broken, is no excuse for not punishing their abusers. True justice would be served with a criminal conviction, and a jail sentence. Even a successful civil lawsuit is small solace compared to putting a tormenter behind bars.

    “Justice delayed is justice denied,” goes the legal maxim, generally proclaimed on behalf of defendants. But the idea applies to victims seeking justice, too, although there’s a different way to express it: “Better late than never.”

  • My kid has been invited to a slumber party! What do I do?

    The words from panicky parents ring far and wide:

    “I went to slumber parties all of the time and, you know, nothing bad ever happened. But things are so different now!”

    “I’ve never let my child spend a night away from me. But she’s nine now, and all of her friends have slumber parties. I can’t keep saying no.”

    So what do you do? Let’s start at the beginning:

    RELAX – Being upset about it is only going to make your child skittish. There are things you can do to calm your fears and help ensure your child’s safety.

    LOOK AT YOUR CHILD AND YOUR OPTIONS – Is your child enthusiastic about the slumber party? Maybe she isn’t. If your child does not want to go, don’t force him or her. There are also great alternatives – maybe your child can stay for the evening part of the party, but prefers to be picked up at 8 pm. For families with church and sports obligations, that’s a perfectly reasonable option.

    KNOW THE FAMILY – Just because you’ve seen the family at school, sports, or church functions doesn’t mean that you really know how they live. Ask to be invited inside the house. Tell the host parents that you’re “one of those nervous types” and just want to make sure everything is ok. If they care about your child, they will do everything they can to show you around. Besides, you also want to confirm that the family doesn’t have a cat ranch in the back bedroom, that they indeed use indoor plumbing, and/or there is no need for a hoarding intervention.

    TRUST YOUR GUT – Do you like the parents, but don’t have a good feeling about the teenage brother? Does your child like his/her friend, but says that the child’s dad is “creepy?” Do you have a bad feeling about the situation? Then just say no.

    HOST A STARTER PARTY – Have a child or two spend the night at your house. This is especially helpful if you think your child may have trepidation about spending a night away from home. You can also have a starter party at a trusted friend’s house – I was lucky enough to have one in the neighborhood for my son’s first sleepover. If anything went wrong, I was three doors down.

    TALK TO YOUR CHILD – In an ideal world, you will have already empowered your child about boundaries and his body. But now, go a step further: Tell your child that slumber parties are awesome. Remind her to get some sleep, don’t eat too much junk, and never be alone with an adult in the house behind closed doors. Also tell your child to call you if anything goes wrong, if something happens, or if he is scared. Plus, remind your child that he can tell you anything, even if he thinks he has done something bad or wrong.

    MAKE UP FOR THE NOS – If you have to tell your child “no” for a slumber party, let him have a friend overnight at your home. You don’t want your child confusing your prudence with his punishment.

    GET THE DEETS – It’s so easy to forget the little things. Make sure you have the hosts’ phone numbers and address. Make sure they have yours. Tell them if your child has allergies. Tell them that they have permission to dial 911 immediately if there is a serious accident involving your child. Tell them if your child does not know how to swim or if she needs to take medication.

     

    Not every child likes sleepovers (I was one of those kids), but for most elementary-school-age and older kids, slumber parties are an important rite of passage, a great social bonding tool, and tons of fun. With care, your child can thrive in these situations … except for the junk-food-lack-of-sleep-induced tummy ache. You’re on your own with that one.